What I’ve come to learn is that staying married is an even greater act of faith than getting married in the first place. We celebrate marriage, as we should. But anniversaries — the extraordinary accomplishment of remaining married and continuing to fulfill our vows to one another — is even more worthy of admiration. There’s a sense in which getting married requires us to have faith in each other. Staying married requires us to have faith in God, faith that God is capable of healing the deepest wounds, faith that God can overcome the problems that seem impossible.
Getting married is light and joy, the celebration of something new. Staying married is courage and commitment, faith and an ironclad commitment to remain with one another through thick and thin. So we marry because love binds us and makes us. We are created in God’s image — and God is love. Therefore we are made in the image of Love. But in the knowledge that we will always be faithful to one another, then we have the safety to be ourselves. When love is conditional, then we behave in the ways we do in order to achieve or retain that love. But when love is unconditional, then we are safe. Then we have a haven. Then we have someone before whom we can be honest — brutally, completely, painfully honest. Without that honesty we may never be truly and fully loved, because the person who is being loved is not who we are but the person we pretend to be. We stay married so that we can be free and so that we can be known.
(excerpts from following link: http://www.patheos.com/blogs/philosophicalfragments/2012/09/09/why-we-marry-and-why-we-stay-married/)
Its Christmas! Yay. Thank you Jesus for being you!